- Bi-weekly support group sessions for the client led either by myself or one of our trained group facilitators
- Weekly counseling sessions
- Regular interaction with a primary accountability partner (I call this person your “advocate”)
- (for spouses of addicts):
- Bi-weekly support group sessions facilitated by my wife (who is a Board Certified Christian Life Coach and experienced and survived my 18 year addiction to pornography) or one of our trained group facilitators.
- individual sessions with either my wife (if she has availability) or a referral to help you find what you need.
- (Marriage Counseling): In my approach, I do not suggest doing couples sessions at the start of the process beyond a preliminary meeting. Many people find this distressing, but I have seen early couples sessions do more harm to the relationship than good. Only after an addict has had sufficient time to achieve extended sobriety and perspective on their addiction and themselves will they be able to see the damage their choices and actions have caused. Yes, they know what they are doing is wrong, but it takes time for them to truly understand the implications of what they have done. When that happens, the spouse who is addicted has enough emotional space to begin focusing on relationship issues. I believe relationship issues to be just as important as the issues in addiction; however, one must come before the other in order to achieve both. Once the addicted client has reached extended sobriety, that signals the time is right to pursue couples sessions.
The “ideal” client for the recovery program is the person who has tried and failed to break their addiction to pornography, has hit “rock bottom” and is ready for freedom. I must warn you, unmotivated individuals may be “fired” as clients. I cannot help you if you do not want the help.